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Grave Reflections

Thoughts, teachings, and musings regarding death, memorialization, cremation, and everything else to help enlighten, edify, and demystify the myths and misconceptions surrounding the inevitable.

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Mortimer Mouse and the Curious Case of the Vanishing Spectacles

In the twilight hours, beneath the brooding eaves of weathered tombs and amongst the sorrowful whisperings of willow trees, there resided a mouse of uncommon intellect and impeccable taste. His name—Mortimer W. Whiskerby III—was known far and wide among the nocturnal denizens of Whiskered Whispers Cemetery, not for his culinary skills (which were fair), nor for his poetry (which was dreadful), but for his keen powers of deduction.

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Buried in Style—Fascinating Stories of Car Burials

The act of being buried in a car can symbolize more than just material wealth. For many, vehicles represent freedom, identity, and personal achievement. A car can be an extension of one's personality, and for some, it holds deep sentimental value. By choosing to be buried in their car, individuals may be expressing a final desire to carry that identity with them, even in death.

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7 Things NOT to Say to Someone When a Loved One Dies

Losing a loved one hurts. Friends and family are compassionate and always willing to help but this isn’t something one does often and it’s hard to find the right thing to say sometimes. Words can either be a source of comfort or cause unintended pain. While most people mean well, certain phrases can come off as dismissive, hurtful, or just plain unhelpful. If you want to support someone who is grieving, here are seven things you should avoid saying—and what to say instead.

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Frozen Dead Guy Days

When it comes to commemorating the dearly departed, the little mountain town of Nederland, Colorado, has taken things to a whole new (and chilly) level. Meet the star of the show: Bredo Morstoel, affectionately known as “Grandpa Bredo,” who’s been cryogenically frozen in a Tuff Shed since the late 1980s. His icy posthumous adventure has inspired one of the quirkiest festivals in the U.S.: Frozen Dead Guy Days.

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How do YOU Honor Your Loved Ones Who Passed?

In the United States, traditions surrounding death and mourning are as diverse as the cultural backgrounds and religious beliefs of the people who observe them. These practices offer families ways to honor their loved ones, find closure, and support each other during a time of loss. While customs can differ widely from family to family, here are some of the most common ways people in the U.S. honor their loved ones after they pass away.

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The Role of Cemeteries in Genealogy and Historical Research—Unearthing the Past

For those of us who’ve spent hours squinting at old census records or deciphering cryptic handwriting in musty family Bibles, cemeteries can feel like a breath of fresh air—or at least, less dusty. Imagine the thrill of finding great-great-grandma’s gravestone, with her full name beautifully etched in stone, as opposed to guessing whether that “M. Johnson” in the 1850 census was really Mary or maybe her elusive twin, Martha. And if you’re lucky, her epitaph might give you a little extra, like ‘Beloved wife and champion pie baker.’ Now that’s the kind of family legacy we can all get behind!

Family plots are like one-stop genealogy shops. No digging through a dozen online forums—just a quick stroll, and there’s grandpa, great-aunt Sally, and cousin Joe all in one spot, laid out like a family reunion. Only quieter.

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5 Unique and Different Religious Funeral Ceremonies Most Common in Texas

In Texas, a state with rich cultural diversity, funeral rituals reflect various religious, cultural, and traditional practices. However, several funeral customs are particularly common across the state. There has been a lot of press regarding the increase in the non-affiliated but there will always be those who follow deeply held religious beliefs, especially regarding death and the afterlife. We honor them all at Martin Oaks Cemetery & Crematory.

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The Kübler-Ross Stages of Grief in Modern Times

The Kübler-Ross stages of grief provide a foundational lens through which to view loss, but they are by no means the final word on how humans process grief. Over time, new theories and critiques have emerged, highlighting the diversity and complexity of grief in the modern era. Whether we adhere to these stages or adopt newer models, the key lesson is that grief is not a problem to be solved, but an experience to be lived, however it unfolds for each person.

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What to do When there is Nowhere to Go

We may think our loved ones will have it all figured out when we pass, but do they really? What about the ashes of your grandparents sitting in eternal peace in the closet? Do your grandchildren really want them in their closet when it’s time to sort through your belongings? It may or may not surprise you that, in most cemeteries, ashes can be buried along other ashes or a full casket all in one grave.

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Talking to Children When Someone Dies

Let’s face it, death is a difficult subject for anyone to navigate. It’s hard for children to navigate everyday life never mind the complexities of grief. Children’s understanding of death varies greatly depending on their age, emotional maturity, and prior experiences. Here are some guidelines and strategies to help you approach this sensitive topic in a compassionate and supportive manner.

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Natural Organic Reduction: The Pros, Cons, and Its Potential Legality in Texas

Natural Organic Reduction (Human Composting) offers a sustainable and eco-friendly alternative to traditional burial and cremation, with numerous environmental and economic benefits. However, its acceptance faces cultural, regulatory, and public perception challenges. In Texas, the path to legalization will depend on legislative action, public support, and industry readiness. As awareness and interest in sustainable practices grow, NOR may become a viable option for Texans seeking a greener way to honor their loved ones.

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